After describing the length of the hike, the burning muscles and the sun beating down on my neck to the rest of my family they decided that it was a great idea to take the weekend train down to Sapa AGAIN!
This time though we brought along a tour guide and I learnt a lot about death and marriage rituals. Warning: The information on death is truly shocking!
Note - The pictures are completely unrelated but I love them anyway.
The most
important things for a man in Sapa are:
A House
A Wife
A Buffalo
I predict that in the first world people would more likely say:
A house
A bank account full of money
A car/ ipod/ television or another consumerist item.
COURTING:
There is a dancing and singing ritual where the men dance to music and the
women sing in response, the couple get closer to one another until they can see
each other's faces. If they like what they see then they carry on going for one
hour (if not then the music dramatically stops and one partner runs away, which
I suppose is very unfortunate if you're very ugly). After one hour they escape
to the mountains to talk till the early hours about their lives, hopes dreams
etc. and agree to meet again 3 times.
I own no rights to this adorable baby - I'm only 15
Once they
have met three times the man will describe the woman to his family and they
must go and kidnap her from the market and keep her in his house for three
days. This sounds rather unnecessary to me but maybe it adds a little adventure
into their lives? If she chooses to stay with the husband's family for three
days then one month later the couple will marry. So if you're like me and can't
dance to save your life you would have no hope of finding a partner.
DEATH:
The dead
are taken to a fortune teller who bathes them in spiritual water and leaves
collected from high up in the mountains. Then the body is suspended from the
ceiling of the family's house and
lowered each day according to how old they were. So if you're 80 you hang 8
days, being lowered by 10cm each day.
Once the
body reaches the floor the strongest men in the village must run with the body
down a long and winding path so the spirit will not remember the way home as
the family doesn't want to be haunted.
What is
most interesting is that this tradition is the opposite in the rest of Vietnam
where people want their dead relative watching over them.
Snake guts really do look appetizing don't they?